Archive for the 'Psychology' Category

Raw Concepts: Broken Window Relationship Theory

Tweet In Malcolm Gladwell’s book The Tipping Point: How Little Things Can Make a Big Difference, there is a discussion of policing tactic based on a social science theory called Broken Windows Theory. Picture you own a house, and you allow the windows of this house to remain broken. Other people who live in and visit [...]

Shame is Immature

Tweet This is an insight that may seem a little basic or obvious, but I try not to take anything for granted. Sometimes things I think I’m making obvious people totally miss, and things I think I didn’t make clear enough, people grasp far better than I ever originally hoped. One such insight I’m not sure [...]

Raw Concepts: The Suppression-Expression Paradox

Tweet The suppression-expression paradox simply means that the more a person or group suppresses a natural human urge, the more intense their expression of that natural urge will be once/if they ever do decide to express it. For example, modern progressive liberals, especially of the Jon Stewart and Stephen Colbert generation, choose to engage in [...]

The Psychology of Trolling

Tweet   [UPDATE: Please read the comments following this article, especially if you're planning to respond with a comment yourself.  I think there are some good comments that raise some interesting objections, and I responded with some added clarifications that I think people may find helpful. Plus any objections you plan on raising may have [...]

Movie Recommendation #4: Young Man With A Horn

Tweet If you have been reading my past few years of posts about Cluster Bs and codependents and find them interesting, and most importantly, if you personally relate at all to those posts, I highly recommend you watch the movie I’m recommending today, Young Man With A Horn. It airs tommorow (Wednesday, March 20) on the [...]

Raw Concepts: Cognitive Dissonance

Tweet The picture above has a good summary of cognitive dissonance. Another of my favorite definitions of cognitive dissonance appears in the book Sleights of Mind: What the Neuroscience of Magic Reveals About Our Everyday Deceptions by Stephen L. Macknick, Susana Martinez-Conde, and Sandra Blakesee, and will from now on be my go-to definition when [...]

The Limitations of Human Perception, Part 1

Tweet Let’s do a thought experiment. The point of it will become clearer in future posts, but for now bear with me. Imagine you went to another planet and met the natives there. By use of special machines, you were able to communicate with them. An interesting thing you realize about these natives is that [...]

Raw Concepts: Superior Inferiority

Tweet I’ve discussed how and why shame-based personalities tend to fluctuate from one extreme to another, often viewing themselves as either subhuman or superhuman. I’ve also discussed how these extremes often coexist at once in one shame-based individual, leading to codependents with disguised narcissistic tendencies and narcissists with disguised codependent, needy tendencies. Today I’m going [...]

Manic Pixie Dream Girls and the Codependents Who Love Them

Tweet A good example of the codependent entitlement or covert narcissism I described in the last post comes in the Manic Pixie Dream Girl fantasy that many introverted, artistically inclined men have. These codependent men are withdrawn, shy, introverted, and afraid to call attention to themselves. But along comes this fantasy girl who acts insane, [...]

Civilization and Human Nature

Tweet We’ve been discussing human nature and the naturalistic fallacy a lot, and how proving that something is human nature is not the same as proving that it’s a desirable trait to have today in modern society. As I’ve said in the past, human nature just means it was something that was at one point [...]