Comments on: Precious Review, Part 2: Oprah’s Fixation

By: Ashe

Ashe — Mon, 07 Dec 2009 13:33:50 +0000

Linda’s right.

While ideally we’d want to accelerate the healing process, people are different. Some don’t have the same inner strength as others. Some ppl can’t heal themselves as readily as others. At the end of the day you still can’t deny that they are in fact, victims of aggression. It does not define what they are but rather what was done to them. It’s unfair. It’s horrible. It takes time to heal. Some people need more time than others, that’s all.

I rather have this kind of “cultural dyfunction”, than those kind that pervades the Arab Saudi and her neighbours. Rape victims being blamed and getting jailed for being victims of circumstances and the agressor goes free. Wtf? The Middle East must be a Utopia for loser men who can’t get a woman by relying solely on their own God-given charm.

By: Linda

Linda — Sun, 29 Nov 2009 22:19:33 +0000

Your points are taken, however, you seem to be as obsessed with these people telling their own stories–and exposing the realities of childhood sexual abuse–as they are in telling them. Why do you think that is? Do you have an issue with discussing the subject at all? Sexual abuse is a continuing travesty committed against children everywhere, black or white, or any “color.” I applaud anything that allows the light of day to shine on it so it can be addressed. Most of these victims spend their lifetimes hiding it, in pain and misplaced shame. Is that what you prefer?

By: Roberto M.

Roberto M. — Mon, 23 Nov 2009 21:18:23 +0000

It just seems to me that you are running out of things to write about.

By: DF

DF — Mon, 23 Nov 2009 17:46:22 +0000

This abuse mentality reached a new cultural low in my mind when I came to learn that one of the guys that has been crushing for my girlfriend tried to gain her sympathy by admitting to her that he was sexually abused. I’ve met the guy and he’s what I’d call uber liberal squared and the most pro-feminist male on the eastern seaboard. What is fascinating about this kid is that he’s in a position to pull tons of chicks but due to a crippling lack of masculinity (even my gf unprompted mentioned that he’s very effeminate) he gets almost nowhere. Lack of game goes without saying. What surprised me was that my gf told me he wasn’t the first guy to pull such as stunt on her!

Tyler Perry I find a very strange man. I don’t know why he’s so popular and I’ve never seen a single one of his movies or TV shows. Don’t comprehend how he gets financing for such dull projects that appear to make no money. However, the abuse angle now makes sense given his penchant for cross-dressing in his Madea series.

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By: Mariella

Mariella — Sun, 22 Nov 2009 02:51:11 +0000

That’s cool, just go ahead and continue to live in denial about how much this stuff actually happens. I’m not saying it’s “normal” but it’s quite common. You may think Oprah is causing everyone to confess their abuse, but if everyone who had ever been abused or raped actually stood up and said so, you would be SHOCKED at how many there are. The only reason you get the impression that this stuff is extraordinary and just overhyped by Oprah is because SO MANY survivors of abuse continue to live in shame and silence. THAT’S why people like Oprah and Tyler Perry encourage dialogue about it – to help create a culture of understanding that will allow more people to speak up, get help and report to the police. But this message was obviously lost on you. Good job.

By: Karol

Karol — Fri, 20 Nov 2009 18:48:58 +0000

You hurt Oprah’s feelings and now she’s quitting her show.

By: The G Manifesto

The G Manifesto — Fri, 20 Nov 2009 17:54:34 +0000

Good job on the Yellow Kid Weil reference. I love that book.

A wise man once said, “You Can’t Cheat an Honest Man”

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By: alphadominance

alphadominance — Thu, 19 Nov 2009 17:39:46 +0000

This reminds me of your guest post on internal vs. external loci of control. I believe we live in a culture that encourages us to abdicate responsibility for our lives, and so it’s little wonder that an individual like Oprah whose stock and trade is legitimizing this attitude for the countless women who follow her is massively successful. From my experience it seems women are particularly subject to embracing the victimization lie, likely due to their natural inclination to seek a provider and therefore to want others to take responsibility for their problems. It seems the “I’m a victim it isn’t my fault” meme and the “I need a prince charming to pay off my AmEx bill” meme spring from the same source. Culture perpetuates this not good enough but not my fault worldview because from there it’s a short step to “buy our shit and all your problems will fade away.” Oprah’s viewers in particular would seem to consist of the welfare moms and those not gainfully employed, as is so much daytime television. Nothing on daytime TV would interest a successful, educated self-determined individual, it’s pure depravity porn through and through.
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