Myth Of The Ghetto Alpha Male
Ghetto men have a reputation for being tough guys, and to untrained eyes it may seem that the problems many ghetto guys have with violence and the legal system are a result of them being textbook alpha males letting their machismo and testosterone run wild. But I think it’s actually the opposite. I think these problems actually come about not because of manhood run wild but because of lack of male instruction.
The black community has a 70% illegitimacy rate. It’s really staggering when you think about it. And I bet if you isolated the illegitimacy rates to just the ghetto, the percentage of single mother homes would be even higher. As a result, the ghetto tends to be a very matriarchal community. And most of the men you do find tend to be young. As Tariq Nasheed says in his book The Mack Within
So since they don’t have men to teach them how to be a man, this creates an insecurity in their male identity and causes them to create their own hyperexaggerated ideal of what a man should be. Supermacho, obnoxious, fearless to the point of knuckleheaded, overaggressive…basically the parody of manhood we see in gangster rap. It’s overcompensation to the worst degree.
But even though they are doing their best to be supernigga, they still do things in a feminine way because feminine influences are most of what they know. Most of their role models and involved family members are women, and the few men in their lives were likely raised by only women too. And it shows in how they handle conflict: grudges are held forever, they never know how to let anything slide, they think primarily with emotion and are prone to outbursts, drama and confrontation and most importantly, they don’t know how to choose their battles. True male behavior isn’t being a drama queen, being highly prone to emotional outbursts and holding onto grudges; true male behavior is picking your battles, knowing when to fight and when to let things slide, analyzing things calmly and logically and having discipline over your moods and emotions and exercising emotional restraint. These are things that a true alpha male influence teaches you, and such influences have almost disappeared completely from the hood.
A chick in the hood can get away with all the drama queen meltdowns and public displays of emotion and confrontation because most people, guys and girls, don’t feel as threatened by a woman and are more likely to let her just yap without serious repercussions. Or at worst just argue back and never let it escalate to a physical level (although it does happen on occasion). When guys are the ones melting down and getting overly emotional and confrontational, it’s a lot scarier and it invites a much more serious retaliation, because now you have the extra ingredients of male size. more muscle and a whole lot of testosterone, which means escalation into serious, possibly fatal, violence is a real possibility. That’s why a society of men learning to manage conflict and emotions from women is a disaster waiting to happen, because what’s acceptable for a woman in this case can get a young man arrested or killed.
Sure a lot of male tendencies are going to show on the surface. These guys are young and are bursting with testosterone after all. But look at a lot of the other behaviors that are there also. Sitting on the stoop getting their hair braided by other girls. Long t-shirts that go down to the kneecaps and look like skirts. Colorful clothes. Obsession with fashion, shopping, shoes and accessorizing. Love of jewelry. Grooming obsessions that would put metrosexuals to shame. The more you think about it, the more you’ll notice and come up with your own examples.
Recommended Reading:
- Don’t let the cover of Tariq Nasheed’s The Mack Within
- Also of interest is his brutally frank dating advice book for women Play or Be Played: What Every Female Should Know About Men, Dating, and Relationships
, which I highly recommend:
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There are a few things that I want to contest here.
You mentioned a 70% illigitimacy rate among ghetto males. I think we should all think more about legitimacy with regards to child rearing and who defines it. I know ariticially inseminated people with two mothers? Are they illegitimate. Every being is legit because we exist as part of God’s will.
Secondly, how do you account for the ghetto behavior of men who were raised by their mom & dad, especially in the Latino, Asian, and White communities?
Also, as you yourself implied, the colorful and flashy fashion styles popular in the ghetto represent a worldwide trend of “metrosexuality.” It comes in cycles-Arab men are doing the 70’s-80’s polyester disco thing with the v-neck and chest hair pockin out, and traditionalists consider that unmanly. Meanwhile, ghetto niggas sport tall-T’s and du-rags that resemble middle eastern dishdashas and kaffiyehs.
Overall, I agree with the author about this feminization of American society. I think it’s taking place accross racial and socio-economic boundaries accross the country. What’s wrong with that? I personally think it’s a good thing, and I’m a straight male currently active duty US Navy. But we are not an anglo-saxon nation anymore and we don’t have to act like men used too…
I think the stereotype of ghetto male behavior is comporable to that of the Irish 100 years ago-easily angered, easily placated. It was an upperclass, white, Yaley male cheerleader-truned-cowboy that got us into the current war, not a ghetto nigga.
Now Africa is a different story. But is the African situation really comporable to that of black American males? Or do we make the connection out of false solidarity (if we’re black) or racism?
The truth is the old story of ghetto problems in America is less and less relevant. We have very few problems in the US compared to the rest of the world, and those problems cross racial boundaries.
Besides, within 50 years Europe and America will be brown, black, and mixed. Demographics are destiny.
Anyway, very interesting point though.
“Sitting on the stoop getting their hair braided by other girls.”
This has been an alpha trait forever. Female lions groom the alpha lion.
Vikings braided their hair.
Many tribal societies braided their hair from Irish, African or Indians.
Genghis Khan had his hair braided by girls. I would think he would be considered an alpha male by any standards.
“I think the stereotype of ghetto male behavior is comporable to that of the Irish 100 years ago-easily angered, easily placated.”
You’re right. All of those black crime statistics must be made-up.
1. I don’t think he was saying that.
2. 100 years ago the Irish in America had extremely fucked up crime stats too, which I think is his point.
“Besides, within 50 years Europe and America will be brown, black, and mixed. Demographics are destiny.”
Is there any evidence that whites will marry significantly outside their cohort in the next several decades?
More likely there will be white flight from Europe and/or America.
And then you’ll have America and Europe going third world, as the mean IQ of the places plummets.
A white flight from Europe and America to….where exactly?
It would be interesting to look into “forgotten/unknown” white cultures, like Argentina.
“86.4% of Argentina’s population self-identify as European descent”
http://scienceblogs.com/gnxp/2....._white.php
They have less feminisation then the typical anglosphere. That means they might have births above the replacement rate, etc. Maybe white culture will survive in some of it’s past colonies?
I think it might worth researching.
Exactly, there is no evidence. We might not be the majority any more, but we ain’t going nowhere!
But hey, now Hispanics (and Asians to a lesser extent in some states) are set to dominate demographically, good luck to all the “brothers and sisters” who will soon get a harsh reality check when all the un-earned privledges white liberals have granted them disappear!
You might think we are evil racist bigoted imperialists blah blah, but one things for certain, when the alternatives take power, you’ll be begging for the good old days
Careful what you wish for…