The Rawness

She needs to go on ellen,oprah,and tyra!

Watch a little of the video with the sound off. She’s bug eyed manic. Whatever she’s saying she doesn’t strike me as a balanced person. She’s fanatical about what she’s saying, like Manson. From what I’ve read, her previous book was about her anorexia. I can totally believe it. This is a narcicistic, driven woman.

I note she smiles alot. Fake I assume. Her book/article seems pretty demanding and negative. She pretends to be affable and easy. Lots of dissonance there.

Is her book a long tirade to herself? A black hole of self absorbsion about why she shouldn’t be so self absorbed?

Interesting study for the professionals.

As far as her looking for a partner, the main quality that guy’s going to have is patience, or a long honed ability to just ignore what the people around him are screeching about.

I am sick and tired of hearing women yapping without end about their singlehood and they use just about every goddamn medium to whine about it too. The NY Times has been particularly agregious, with article after article about how women can’t find men because they’re too successful or too numerous on college campuses or too dilusional to figure out how inadequate they really are.

Check this link out everyone, Ricky if you read all of his series on narcissism you will probably have to write a post about it.

http://thelastpsychiatrist.com.....ou_wa.html

Americo, I just saw that piece this weekend. Good stuff. I’m going to put it in the body of the blog post.

Other people have brought this up, but Gottlieb is talking about a small slice of women, e.g. yuppies. She gives all right advice about what you need and want years in the future in a partner may not be what you want right now. Bascially it’s telling people to have future time orientation.

There is one part of her message that goes something like – “It’s dumb to worry about superficial things like what kind of car a guy drives and what his hair color is. What I really want is someone to support me and who I can support in turn. You want a real committment…”

Except that she’s spent her entire life up to the point where her sexual bargaining power is minimal going for the superficial stuff. She’s written slanderous, vile shit about her exes and now she’s looking for someone to ‘have her back’. And she doesn’t see any contradiction in this.

I don’t disagree with her that a mature, stable relationship with a decent, kind, agreeable man who isn’t particularly flashy would be a very nice thing for a woman in her 40’s with a kid from a sperm donor. I question her understanding of the nature of committment.

From the link, (which was an excellent analysis, thanks Americo):”This woman should have a scarlet “ME” on her shirt. What makes me happy? What do I want? You can’t run a relationship this way, you can’t run a life this way. But the longer she stays single, the more self-absorbed she becomes, the more she thinks about what she needs and wants.” Excactly. The woman barely acknowledges that there’s a man on the other side of the relationship. “Oh. Uhm, I’ll have you’re back too,” I’m sure she’d hurriedly say. Good luck with that Mr. Gottlieb.

All I can say is is you act like an asshole you’re not going to have a lot of friends. And it doesn’t help to write a book saying you know you’re an asshole but you want to be cool now cause your at a point where no one wants to play with you anymore. You can sell some books that way though, I imagine.