A quick note: it appears that I lost 150 subscribers, almost half my total, after my last Obama post. Well, at least you can’t say it didn’t move the readers.
Second quick note: it seems the immortality drive series was depressing the shit out of people, so I put it on hold for a while. I’m coming back to it sometime next week.
Anyway, I get a lot of ideas for posts suggested by readers, and I store them away for future reference. I figured now would be a good time to dig up one of those suggestions.
Someone, can’t remember who, asked that I give a 12 step plan on being an alpha male. I thought this request over for a while and realized I couldn’t give him the kind of post he was asking for. I imagine he wanted some tips on how to stand, talk or dress that would make him more of an alpha male. There are two reasons I felt unable to write such a post. First, there are many other sites that already write about such things, and do it much better than I ever could. And the second, and probably more controversial, reason is that I don’t really think it’s possible for most of us guys to even become alpha males in today’s society. Yes, you read that right.
Too many of the behaviors and attitudes associated with being a true alpha male are either extremely frowned upon socially, or are outright illegal. The very, very highest level of alpha male throughout history has been the guy who has been willing to either injure or take life (even if by ordering someone under him to do it) or risk injury and even his own death. For example it used to be perfectly acceptable, if a guy insulted you, to punch him in the face if you wanted. Now in today’s society, a guy can pretty much insult you all he wants until the cows come home, but the moment you get sick of it and punch him in the face, you have committed a crime. Back in the day though, you not only had the option of punching a dude, you could even duel him to the death. I’m sure the number of passive-aggressive pricks was much lower back then as a result, given repercussions like that. But not only is it illegal, we have a generation of men socially conditioned to avoid and frown on fighting from the moment they enter the school system. It’s drilled into their heads to the point where the average middle-class guy would do anything to avoid punching another guy in the face, not only because it would be illegal or because he fears the scorn of his community, but also because deep in his heart of hearts he feels like he failed as a civilized human being. Fighting has become a moral failing in the mind of modern men. The prevalent social attitude is to either stand there all day and bicker like a woman or take the “high road” and just walk away. Even guys who have asked me about how to be more alpha in the past, when I suggest punching a guy in the face once in a while when they get fed up as one of the steps, balk at this suggestion. And given the ways the community and the legal system will punish you for engaging physical violence, I can’t totally blame them. I once believed the same thing, but I made a pledge to myself two years ago though that to the best of my ability I would no longer shy away from physical violence to solve problems, or view it as a sign of weakness to do so. The people who created such rules were women and powerful but physically weak intellectual men who wanted to find a way to level the playing field for themselves against alpha males by using the legal system.
Most men are afraid to fight for the same reason they’re afraid of approaching women. They’re afraid of that ego-shattering sensation of failing, and publicly to boot. It’s safer to not try. With fighting, they even take it one step further by reframing their fear into a virtue, which is why most civilized men will try to portray their unwillingness to fight as a virtue.
But that’s just one of the many ways society has neutered the ability of men to be alpha males. One of the effects of a society with men totally free to be as alpha as they want is (1) incredible inequality as much of the power and sexual opportunity gets concentrated in the hands of the few and powerful, and (2) lack of security for the average person. Societies with unbridled alpha aggression free a man to go for the things he wants, but also leave him open to someone bigger and stronger doing the same thing to him at some point. And for women, these societies can be especially dangerous and volatile.
As societies become more civilized and become more democratic, they tend to start valuing things like equality and security above all else. Consequently these civilized societies start relegating all alpha status to the state, and to its enforcement arm, the legal system, in exchange for more equality and security. The State is the biggest alpha in America now. The only individuals who can achieve true alpha status in the West nowadays are the people who are rich and powerful enough to influence and control the state, the criminals because they refuse to play by the State’s rules and thumb their nose at its legal system enforcement arm , and the members that make up the frontline of that aforementioned enforcement arm such as police, prosecutors and military men in times of war.
The only option available for the rest of us is to be as much of a man as we can while still toeing the line. We can only be alpha within limits. So in trying to come up with a term beside Alpha Male, I decided to use Renaissance Man instead. This is a term that is also used by Tariq Nasheed. The Renaissance Man is a modern man who is as alpha as he can be despite not being rich and powerful and while still living within the limitations set upon him by society and his power level. You can often see examples of such men in old movies that were made before the 70s.
This is an open-ended series with no set ending, I’ll just keep adding installments whenever I feel like it. Part 1 comes tomorrow.