31 Days of Game: Day 19
Talk To Your Fucking Friends
This is one of the worst habits guys have. They go to a bar or club and stand side-by-side, elbow-to-elbow, and scan the room without talking to each other while holding drinks.
This conveys so many bad things. First, if you are friends with each other and even you don’t seem to find each other interesting enough to talk to, why should a stranger? Both of you automatically seem less intertesting. Second, it looks like you value meeting girls than each other. Loyalty to friends is an important aspect of female friendships, so they respect it when they see it in male friendships as well. Third, it looks like you depend on them to determine whether or not you had a good time or not while out. This is also an unattractive trait and looks like desperation. It gives the impression that the only reason you guys went out is in hopes of hooking up. Of course that’s true for 90% of the single guys who go out, but you don’t want your body language to scream such a thing either.
Talking to your friends with sincere and animated interest fixes many of these bad impressions. It shows you might be interesting people when you seem to really be caught up in talking to each other. You convey that you put your friends first. And it makes it look like you don’t base your whole self-worth on women and their attentions and don’t judge the quality of your night solely on whether or not you hooked up.
Better yet, talking to your friends is also a great way to scan the room without seeming like you’re scanning the room. You just face each other, talk, and use your peripheral vision and the view over your friend’s shoulder to gauge the quality of the room. Women are masters of this. They can seem totally engaged in conversation with friends while totally cataloguing and assessing the quality of a crowded room. This is the kind of social multitasking you need to master.
(7 votes, average: 5.00 out of 5)
Loading ...
The one problem with running Game and being a socialite: I go to a club and I’ll barely dance as I spend most of the night refreshing social contacts, meeting and greeting their friends, smoozing the manager and bar staff etc
Spot on. One of the most annoying traits of noob players is their one-track mind. If you’re having a good time with friends, you’ll get into a more natural and hyped flow and talk to others far easier.
And you won’t piss off the friend who’s trying to have a conversation with you.
To add to that, when you do get in a relationship, keep your friends around and in your life. Dont just cut them off completely. Maybe you cant go to the club(as you shouldn’t) but you can meet a few times a month to watch a game at someone house or going to ball game for some male bonding or something. Dont forget about your boys when you get a girl.
@ damon, totally agree
Like Ricky Raw was saying earlier, your girl shouldn’t become your best friend or confidant. Thats what your best friend is for. And don’t fuck that up by getting sex in the way.
I’ve seen it when the dude is complacent and not an active, strong personality, and gets comfortable with the girl cooking, making things easy for him at her place. She decides menu, soon she decides activities.
you should always have a drink in your hand as well. This helps women scan for a wedding ring. Moving your hands in general is a good idea it gives us the impression that your a director and not a follower plus we can scope you out for a ring. Although a wedding ring is signal for some women to steal a man too.
I HATE GUYS WHO DO THIS.. The guys who stand on the edges watching the girls dance, and not talking or moving except for to sip their cheep beer, are so creepy. I call them the barracudas. Have some fucking balls. Also, it makes me feel like I’m some kind of entertainment for you. Stop it. Then when they do approach I want nothing to do with them. There is a 3 second rule for a reason.
[...] Ricky Raw: 31 Days of Game: 19 [...]
[...] T. aka Ricky Raw: 31 Days of Game: Day 19 [...]
To add to that, when you do get in a relationship, keep your friends around and in your life. Dont just cut them off completely. Maybe you cant go to the club(as you shouldn’t) but you can meet a few times a month to watch a game at someone house or going to ball game for some male bonding or something. Dont forget about your boys when you get a girl.
To add to that, when you do get in a relationship, keep your friends around and in your life. Dont just cut them off completely. Maybe you cant go to the club(as you shouldn’t) but you can meet a few times a month to watch a game at someone house or going to ball game for some male bonding or something. Dont forget about your boys when you get a girl.
Hey, I really like some of the ideas presented in this blog. I also like a lot of the comments. I’m not much of a people watcher, so I don’t know what exactly goes on most of the time, but I do know that desperation upsets everybody. Even if someone orders you around out of anger, and you do what they say out of fear of dislike, there’s a good chance they’ll dislike you for it. So I love that about this blog. The bits about not having desperation.
How does one not have desperation though? Is it by constantly approaching women? No. I don’t think so myself.
Any thoughts?
Hey, I really like some of the ideas presented in this blog. I also like a lot of the comments. I’m not much of a people watcher, so I don’t know what exactly goes on most of the time, but I do know that desperation upsets everybody. Even if someone orders you around out of anger, and you do what they say out of fear of dislike, there’s a good chance they’ll dislike you for it. So I love that about this blog. The bits about not having desperation.
How does one not have desperation though? Is it by constantly approaching women? No. I don’t think so myself.
Any thoughts?