Tweet The suppression-expression paradox simply means that the more a person or group suppresses a natural human urge, the more intense their expression of that natural urge will be once/if they ever do decide to express it. For example, modern progressive liberals, especially of the Jon Stewart and Stephen Colbert generation, choose to engage in [...]
Tweet [UPDATE: Please read the comments following this article, especially if you're planning to respond with a comment yourself. I think there are some good comments that raise some interesting objections, and I responded with some added clarifications that I think people may find helpful. Plus any objections you plan on raising may have [...]
Tweet If you have been reading my past few years of posts about Cluster Bs and codependents and find them interesting, and most importantly, if you personally relate at all to those posts, I highly recommend you watch the movie I’m recommending today, Young Man With A Horn. It airs tommorow (Wednesday, March 20) on the [...]
Tweet In recent posts about gender maturity, I thought of maturity as the same definition a politician once used to describe porn, which I’ll paraphrase now: “I can’t describe it, but I know it when I see it.” I figured everyone basically shared the same idea of what maturity was. Several people made a point, [...]
Tweet The picture above has a good summary of cognitive dissonance. Another of my favorite definitions of cognitive dissonance appears in the book Sleights of Mind: What the Neuroscience of Magic Reveals About Our Everyday Deceptions by Stephen L. Macknick, Susana Martinez-Conde, and Sandra Blakesee, and will from now on be my go-to definition when [...]
Tweet Let’s do a thought experiment. The point of it will become clearer in future posts, but for now bear with me. Imagine you went to another planet and met the natives there. By use of special machines, you were able to communicate with them. An interesting thing you realize about these natives is that [...]
Tweet [I want to remind everyone, if you have questions you want me to ask Andey Randead, the author of The Great Female Con, continue to ask them in the comments section to today's or yesterday's post. Thanks. - T.] A few clarifications up front, to clarify yesterday’s post: I didn’t mean to imply women [...]
Tweet [Note: this is specifically about today's women in the modern, developed world, especially the West, not womankind from the beginning of recorded history or from all over the world.] One of the most accepted premises of our society is that women are more mature on average than men. It’s so accepted that it’s [...]
Tweet I’ve discussed how and why shame-based personalities tend to fluctuate from one extreme to another, often viewing themselves as either subhuman or superhuman. I’ve also discussed how these extremes often coexist at once in one shame-based individual, leading to codependents with disguised narcissistic tendencies and narcissists with disguised codependent, needy tendencies. Today I’m going [...]
Tweet A good example of the codependent entitlement or covert narcissism I described in the last post comes in the Manic Pixie Dream Girl fantasy that many introverted, artistically inclined men have. These codependent men are withdrawn, shy, introverted, and afraid to call attention to themselves. But along comes this fantasy girl who acts insane, [...]
