Archive for March, 2013

Raw Concepts: The Suppression-Expression Paradox

Tweet The suppression-expression paradox simply means that the more a person or group suppresses a natural human urge, the more intense their expression of that natural urge will be once/if they ever do decide to express it. For example, modern progressive liberals, especially of the Jon Stewart and Stephen Colbert generation, choose to engage in [...]

The Psychology of Trolling

Tweet   [UPDATE: Please read the comments following this article, especially if you’re planning to respond with a comment yourself.  I think there are some good comments that raise some interesting objections, and I responded with some added clarifications that I think people may find helpful. Plus any objections you plan on raising may have [...]

Movie Recommendation #4: Young Man With A Horn

Tweet If you have been reading my past few years of posts about Cluster Bs and codependents and find them interesting, and most importantly, if you personally relate at all to those posts, I highly recommend you watch the movie I’m recommending today, Young Man With A Horn. It airs tommorow (Wednesday, March 20) on the [...]

Raw Concepts: Cognitive Dissonance

Tweet The picture above has a good summary of cognitive dissonance. Another of my favorite definitions of cognitive dissonance appears in the book Sleights of Mind: What the Neuroscience of Magic Reveals About Our Everyday Deceptions by Stephen L. Macknick, Susana Martinez-Conde, and Sandra Blakesee, and will from now on be my go-to definition when [...]

The Limitations of Human Perception, Part 1

Tweet Let’s do a thought experiment. The point of it will become clearer in future posts, but for now bear with me. Imagine you went to another planet and met the natives there. By use of special machines, you were able to communicate with them. An interesting thing you realize about these natives is that [...]

Raw Concepts: Superior Inferiority

Tweet I’ve discussed how and why shame-based personalities tend to fluctuate from one extreme to another, often viewing themselves as either subhuman or superhuman. I’ve also discussed how these extremes often coexist at once in one shame-based individual, leading to codependents with disguised narcissistic tendencies and narcissists with disguised codependent, needy tendencies. Today I’m going [...]

Manic Pixie Dream Girls and the Codependents Who Love Them

Tweet A good example of the codependent entitlement or covert narcissism I described in the last post comes in the Manic Pixie Dream Girl fantasy that many introverted, artistically inclined men have. These codependent men are withdrawn, shy, introverted, and afraid to call attention to themselves. But along comes this fantasy girl who acts insane, [...]

Raw Concepts: Codependent Entitlement (or Covert Narcissism)

Tweet We’ve already discussed how shame-filled people are prone to view themselves in extremes, as either superhuman or subhuman. I called this the superhuman/subhuman dichotomy. You can see this dichotomy in the way shame-based people tend to become either narcissists (superhuman) or codependents (subhuman). Although narcissists and codependents may seem like opposites on a superficial [...]

Raw Concepts: The Superhuman/Subhuman Dichotomy of Shame

Tweet A great book I read on shame was John Bradshaw’s Healing the Shame that Binds You. I’ve read better when it comes to getting into the hardcore psychodynamics behind shame, like Leon Wurmser’s books, but those books can be very intimidating, dense, and jargon-filled. Bradshaw’s book, though, is great for laypeople, and has a lot of [...]

Book Reviews, Reading List Updates, #1

Tweet I am going to start adding humor and fiction books to the reading list. The first humor book is below. Infinite Crab Meats by Byron Crawford While I think I’m a good writer, one thing I always envy is people who can write funny and make it appear effortless. I think in real life [...]